Making new friends does not seem to be easy. I have a very good group of friends but I got to know them through an existing friend and they all live in other towns. How is it that I live in a town for 13 years and not know anybody? Strange. The difficulty seems to lie in the demographics. I am a 38 year old single father who raises his own child. Did I mention I have a dead wife?
Where to meet friends?
Bars are natural places for gathering. They are also filled with people who drink. This is a costly and hap-hazard way to meet anyone if you are by yourself. I do not recommend it because more than likely you are going to wind up with a lot of friends who drink. The majority of those that frequent these establishments do not seem to be in my age group anyway. If anyone has a suggestion please don’t be shy.
Work can be an excellent place to make friends. Especially if work is close to where you live. I have made a few friends this way. The problem with this route is it requires a lot of work to make the friendship last. I believe these friends are “Friends of Convenience”. You see them often, chat at lunch, sometimes you may even go out and do an activity. Such as bowling, fishing, maybe even lunch on the weekend.
What happens when one of you stops working there? How many of these friends are going to make plans with you? Have any of them ever been to your house? They may be nice people but outside of work you may just not have anything in common with them.
Cell-Phones and Smart-Phones
Most people now have either a cell phone, smartphone, iphone, ipad, etc. All of these are great ways to stay in touch with friends. In my experience I under utilize the tools availible to interact with my existing friends. Messenger, Text, Gmail, Twitter, Talk, or just a Facebook post. So adding to the rolodex or contact list, as it is called now, with new friends seems to be a challenging task.
The phone call is most likely the most personal way to use the phone. Imagine that. I don’t like to talk on the phone myself. If I don’t have anything to say there is a lot of dead air. This is awkward and if someone doesn’t have unlimited mobile to mobile minutes it can be costly for them. Landlines still cost me minutes to call from my cell. Call someone and not have anything to say may eventually get your call ignored next time.
Facebook is a social site and anyone can sign up for an account and have friends. But are these friends actually going to interact with you outside of Facebook? The existing trend with Facebook seems to be posting E-cards and Pictures with anecdotes. Will this be the end of Facebook? Will it eventually go the way of Myspace? This can be an entire article in itself.
Facebook also has rolled out many new features. Such as lists for different sets of friends and family. The people you went to high school with may not be close friends anymore but you still like to see what they are up to. You are now also able to post to only certain lists. In many instances this may keep you in some peoples Newsfeed or keep you from being unfriended. I myself use lists and have friends that I block from my Newsfeed. No offence but sometimes they post way too many E-cards or Religious posts.
This is basically a draft but I will post anyway due to the fact I don’t think it will be read by anybody.